R100K for Love or Just a Transaction? The DJ Maphorisa & Thuli Phongolo Lobola Saga That Has South Africa Talking
DJ Maphorisa’s lavish R100,000 lobola payment for actress Thuli Phongolo was supposed to be a celebration of love and tradition, but instead, it sparked a wave of controversy, speculation, and heated debates across South Africa’s social media.
The story didn’t end with the payment—in fact, that’s where the drama truly began.
The concept of lobola, a traditional bride price paid by a groom’s family to the bride’s family, holds deep cultural significance in South Africa.
It’s meant to symbolize respect, commitment, and the joining of two families. For DJ Maphorisa, one of the country’s most prominent music producers, the gesture was nothing short of grand.
Yet, as soon as the news broke, the internet erupted—not with congratulations, but with criticism, mockery, and questions about the real nature of the relationship.
Allegations quickly surfaced that Thuli Phongolo had complained about Maphorisa’s bad breath, which many attributed to his well-known smoking habits.
Social media users speculated that Thuli tolerated these personal issues only while Maphorisa was “pouring money” into the relationship.
The moment the financial incentives waned, so did her patience. This narrative, whether true or not, became the focal point of thousands of comments, memes, and debates.
People questioned whether Thuli ever truly loved Maphorisa, or if she saw him simply as a “money cow.”
The idea that successful men abandon their “type” for “slay queens” who are only interested in material gain was repeated over and over in comment threads.
Some argued that Maphorisa should have known better, suggesting that the signs of disinterest from Thuli were obvious, even from her body language.
Others took the opportunity to reflect on broader societal issues. Why do so many relationships in the public eye seem to be transactional?
Is love being replaced by financial calculation? One commenter, identifying as a lesbian, noted that genuine happiness cannot be bought, and warned against entering relationships for the wrong reasons.
“When you enter a relationship, just forget about benefits for a while and rather ask yourself what are you depriving yourself of?” she wrote, urging people to seek real connection over status or money.
The debate spilled over into questions about gender roles and expectations. Some insisted that Thuli should “pay back the money” if she never loved Maphorisa, while others argued that it’s never wise to “lead with money” in any relationship.
The consensus among many was clear: if you use money to win someone’s affection, you risk ending up in an emotionally empty, transactional arrangement.
