Veteran actor Setlhabi Taunyane, widely known as Bra Kop, has not shied away from speaking about the personal challenges he faces due to his marriage. In a heartfelt revelation, Taunyane candidly discussed how his life has been impacted by societal perceptions and family estrangement, primarily because his wife is from Zimbabwe. “I’m trying my best, especially because my wife is from Zimbabwe. We have suffered because she’s from Zimbabwe,” Taunyane reflected, expressing a sentiment shared by many who have faced discrimination due to their loved ones’ backgrounds.
Having been married for nearly two decades, Taunyane has grown accustomed to the exclusion that comes with his cross-cultural union. He shared a poignant and painful example of this: “I just heard that one of my cousins in Diepkloof was getting married two weeks ago, and no one phoned me. It hasn’t changed because I’m married to lekwerekwere (outsider).” His words reveal the deep hurt of being left out of family gatherings, not just as an oversight, but as a direct consequence of his marriage. This feeling of exclusion is not only limited to missing celebrations; it extends to a more profound sense of loneliness and estrangement that lingers over time.
Taunyane’s experience highlights the complex dynamics that can emerge when familial bonds are strained due to societal biases. He poignantly described his struggle, stating, “Do you understand my brother? I’ve learned to live with that. Once you are abandoned by the family, this thing grows bigger, even outside the family.” His words serve as a stark reminder of the powerful role that family support plays in shaping one’s sense of belonging and self-worth. The absence of that support can leave a void that is difficult to fill, a reality that Taunyane has come to know all too well.
Despite the heaviness of his experiences, Taunyane has managed to find moments of light and humor, demonstrating resilience in the face of adversity. Earlier this year, a series of viral Thai massage videos and photos of the actor sparked rumors and misunderstandings about his health. Laughing off the incident, he recalled, “Ne bare get well soon, bare kea shwa” (they were saying I must get well soon because ‘I’m dying’). He clarified the confusion surrounding his relaxing massages, jokingly adding, “And you know when you are getting a massage, you have to go with it, ahhh and it works.” His ability to find laughter in difficult situations is a testament to his enduring spirit.
Setlhabi Taunyane’s story is a powerful reminder of the complex interplay between love, culture, and family dynamics. Though he faces challenges, his unwavering love for his wife and his resilience shine through. In a world where societal and familial pressures often weigh heavily on relationships, Taunyane’s openness encourages others to embrace love in all its forms, even when it defies expectations. His journey speaks to the courage required to navigate the intersections of personal and cultural identity, offering hope and inspiration to those facing similar struggles.
As Taunyane continues to share his truth, he not only advocates for acceptance but also highlights the importance of standing firm in one’s choices, even when faced with the weight of familial rejection. His story is a celebration of resilience, love, and the courage to hold onto one’s convictions in the face of adversity.
